Detachment is a key to recovery from codependency. It strengthens our healthy relationships—the ones that we want to grow and flourish. It benefits our difficult relationships— the ones that…

Sometimes things seem like good ideas and aren’t, really.— Piglet  Ask for guidance first. Self-will is a tricky thing. So are impulse behaviors. We’ve heard of impulse buying—making purchases…

Recovery is about more than walking away. Sometimes it means learning to stay and deal. It’s about building and maintaining relationships that work.— BEYOND CODEPENDENCY Problems and conflicts are…

The Sufis have a saying: Praise Allah, and tie your camel to a post. This brings together both parts of practice: pray, yes, but also make sure that you…

Surrender to the moment. Ride it out and through, for all it’s worth. Throw yourself into it. Stop resisting. So much of our anguish is created when we are…

Learn to say yes, and mean it. How long has it been since you’ve said yes to someone in your life? Yes, I’d like to do that. Yes, that…

Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.— STEP FOUR OF AL-ANON By the time we get to the Fourth of the Twelve Steps, we are ready to…

It was one of those luxurious mornings. The surf was pounding—just loud enough to be heard. We stood on the balcony, watching the rising tide. “Its rhythms vary so…