Acting ‘as if’: Taking Small Steps
November 22, 2016
Acting as if is another recovery truism that’s been around for a long time. I still use it regularly in my life. I know people who are not in recovery—athletes, performers, artists—who use the technique too.
All it means is that if it’s time to act, we do—whether taking that action feels comfortable or not. Instead of doing nothing, or waiting for confidence, success, or inspiration to overtake and motivate us first, we go ahead and move forward with an action anyway and let the good feelings catch up to us.
We act as if the desired change has already taken place.
Action: “I didn’t pay my bills because I didn’t have enough money to pay them off in full,” a man told me. “I had to learn that I could make payments and pay off the whole bill by paying a little at a time.”
Sometimes you can sabotage yourself by trying to do too much at once. If you can’t stop drinking or using drugs by yourself, are you willing to ask for help?
If you can’t accept everything about your life in one fell swoop, are you willing to accept where you are and how you feel today? If you can’t forgive someone, are you willing to start praying for that person and let go of the resentment you feel?
Break whatever you are trying to do into small steps. Then take the first step first.
From the desk of Melody Beattie
Originally posted December 9, 2014
About the author
In addiction and recovery circles, Melody Beattie is a household name. She is the best-selling author of numerous books.
One of Melody's more recent titles is The Grief Club, which was published in 2006. This inspirational book gives the reader an inside look at the miraculous phenomenon that occurs after loss--the being welcomed into a new "club" of sorts, a circle of people who have lived through similar grief and pain, whether it be the loss of a child, a spouse, a career, or even one's youth.