The process of adapting to change and loss takes energy. Grief is draining, sometimes exhausting. Some people need to “cocoon for transformation,” in Pat Carnes’s words, while going through…

How easy it is to blame our problems on others. “Look at what he’s doing.”. . . “Look how long I’ve waited.”. . . “Why doesn’t she call?”. .…

In skydiving, there’s an activity called dirt diving. At the drop zone, you’ll see people lying on their bellies on contraptions that look like skateboards. They make all the…

When you’re starting a first creative project or beginning the study of an art or craft, what I want you to do is lower your standards until they disappear.…

Learning to gently reveal who we are is how we open ourselves up to love and intimacy in our relationships. Many of us have hidden under a protective shell,…

This part of the path was steep. And the altitude change was severe. I was gasping for breath and trying not to grimace at the ache in my legs…

I’ve started to realize that waiting is an art, that waiting achieves things. Waiting can be very, very powerful. Time is a valuable thing. If you can wait two…

Here’s another example about the power of simplification. For years, I heard about hiking. It sounded so elusive, difficult, and mysterious. I didn’t do it, but I thought about…