“Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong promptly admitted it.” This is the Tenth Step of the Alcoholics Anonymous Twelve Step program. It’s also a step…

Trust in God and do something.— MARY LYON It’s important to let ourselves grieve as a passage between yesterday and tomorrow. But we do not have to be controlled…

Earlier in this book, I talked about how little drops of rain, over the years, could wear pockets and indentations into stones. I used this as an analogy to…

The belief that life has to be hard and difficult is the belief that makes a martyr. We can change our negative beliefs about life, and whether we have…

One good way to help ourselves believe we can is by helping others learn they can, too. Some of us call this “being of service.” In Twelve Step programs,…

There are two benefits from recovery: we have short-term gains and long-term gains. The short-term gains are the things we can do today that help us feel better immediately.…

Sometimes we gain freedom not only by letting go ourselves, but by helping someone else let go of us. A child rounds a corner on her little purple bike,…

I used to wish they sold boxes of boundaries at convenience stores. Now my thinking has changed. I wish they sold big boxes of learning to trust ourselves. Prayer:…

The more we believe that we have a right to our wants and needs, the more gently we can say, “This is what’s right for me.” Gratitude Focus: We…

A situation happens. Then it happens again. At first, we may react mindlessly or try to do what we think is right. After a while, we get angry and…