The boundary question isn’t “Can I keep doing this?” It’s “Do I want to?” Inventory Focus: Some have a high tolerance for pain. It takes a lot before you…

Boundaries aren’t limited to saying no. Boundaries reflect what we believe we deserve. Some people were born into situations that encouraged listening to and trusting themselves. Others had their…

“I don’t think of myself as codependent,” a friend said. “I call myself an overcarer instead. The problem is, when I care too much about one person, someone else…

“My son had been out of my home for years,” a friend told me. “He wanted his independence but didn’t want to pay the price. He always needed money…

It’s okay to be angry, but it isn’t healthy to be resentful. Regardless of what we learned as children, no matter what we saw role-modeled, we can learn to…

One day, when I was getting ready to do a coached skydive, my coach sat me down. He gave me an exercise to do. “When I skydive,” he said,…

As I glanced through the pages of a writer’s magazine one morning, I realized how important this magazine had been in my life. When I began writing back in…

“I’ve reached my career and family goals,” a successful woman in her late thirties said. “Now, it’s time to start taking care of myself. I’m going to begin by…

Children need discipline to feel secure; so do adults. Discipline means understanding there are logical consequences to our behavior. Discipline means taking responsibility for our behavior and the consequences.…