Important Holiday Notice

Holidays can be dicey for people going through grief. While everyone else is eating, moaning, grumbling about required family appearances, or watching football, some people are in their own world — remembering when someone they love was there — skin on, for everyone to see and hear. But this year, the person’s absence is profoundly noticeable. Other holidays go better.

If you’re having a hard time, please feel free to stop by. Someone will be here to read you post, respond to you, and to care. Or, stop by and say nothing. Just stare. It won’t make the pain go away. It won’t bring back the person. But I’m hoping the site can at least symbolize the truth that you aren’t alone no matter what you’re going through.

We’re open especially on holidays. Grief and loss don’t take these days off. They often choose them. We’ll be here too.

I sincerely hope you don’t need us. May Peace and Grace be with you. I hope you have a good day but if it’s challenging, difficult, uncomfortable, or downright horrible, know that’s normal.

Comment. Post. Read. Or get a cup of coffee and hang around for a while. If you’ve registered, maybe find some favorite pictures of other holidays and upload them to your profile. It’s okay to remember when. Do whatever feels right to you, as long as it doesn’t hurt anyone else or you. In profound absolute wisdom, our Higher Power as we understand God broke Life down into 24-hour chunks. This day is only one of them. You will get through it.

The Grief Club will be on special duty throughout the entire holiday season. If you want to spend time here responding to others in pain, you’re more than welcome to help us reach out to others.

Melody Beattie

November 09, 2010